Sexual Language

External and Internal Anatomy

Cervical Exploration

Yoni Expressions

Breast Play

Yoni Massage Guide

Genital Reflexology

Squirting

It is important include the following information: female ejaculation or squirting is not always the be all and end all of orgasms. These orgasms can range from profoundly emotional, pleasurable, relieving, releasing, clearing and healing. It can also be damaging for the pelvic floor for womben who try to push it with squirting. It is easy for some yoni havers, and not for others and it is important that we do not create a feeling of inadequacy surrounding this leading to potential harm of the yoni. Some sisters may never squirt, while others may only give these sacred waters to a man or womban that truly deserve them. Some may only ever do it once on a one night stand. Which is all ok! We are totally perfect just as we are. However, if you or your clients would like to explore further, take some time to do some GENTLE practice. One blockage can be the pressure we put on ourselves to squirt. Another is the feeling of concern for our partner's stamina and potential of stopping. There may also be fear of making a mess of the bed and linen. For squirting to occur it helps to be very aroused and hydrated before penetration (45 minutes is a good amount of physical/energetic foreplay for any sexual encounter). Then a come hither motion until the bliss-spot (g-spot) is nice and full. Then a rhythmic harder and faster pressure upwards and downwards. Things that can help: -Hydration; -Feeling safe; -Urinating beforehand; -Breathing deep into your tummy and sounding exhales; -Plastic sheets/towels; -Massage beforehand; -No expectation; -A trusted parter. -TIME! (it took me over 2 hours to properly squirt the first time properly (I had ejaculated but never properly squirted before this); -Self practice. You may experience orgasmic sensations throughout the body, without ejaculating at all! This is so beautifully powerful in itself and so revitalising! You may also feel the bladder filling which can be distracting and create the sensation to pee. Play with this to your own comfort levels, maybe go pee halfway through or relax into it. If you experience any release of fluids have a taste and smell, it is divinely intoxicating! You can rub it all over your face and body! Yum!

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Sexual Language

Lingam Expressions

Erotic Talk

Our words have so much power in our sexuality and can do a lot for our connection to our lover/s. Erotic talk (also known as "dirty talk") is a vast field that we can explore endlessly with our lovers. We often perceive dirty talk as things like "I want you to fuck me hard with your big meaty cock!". While this kind of talk is one yummy aspect of erotic talk, there is plenty more to be said for using our words in our eroticism. Our erotic talk is very individual and can change not only from person to person, but individually from moment to moment. That is why it is important to understand our lover's (and our own) favourite flavours of erotic talk. An example: For myself: While for some womben an equal amount of objectification and appreciation are enjoyed (so the womban can feel more than a housewife as well as more than just a sexual object) I personally don't need praise for my looks or my capabilities as a human in day to day life. I feel extremely beautiful, perfect and capable so this kind of talk does not move me. However I do like a balance of heart-centered connection, sensuality and sexuality in my erotic talk. For me when my feelings are validated I feel safe- this is heart-centered talk. Things like "that must be really hard" or "I understand why you would feel that way" help me to feel safe seen and heard. For sensual talk when my partner says things like "I can wait to run you a bath and give you a long massage" I begin to immediatly relax and drop out of my head and into my body- sensual talk. When my partner tells me how they (my partner uses they/them pronouns) feel while we are intimate I become extremely aroused. The more turned on they are and the more I know about it is so sexy to me. So things like "I am on the edge" "My cock feels so sensitive inside you right now" "I am trying so hard not to cum" "I am right there" "I am about to cum" things like that kill me! So that is how erotic talk works for me. How about you? How about your partner? My partner LOVES it when I share appreciation for the tasks that they do - taking the bins out, fixing the website etc- heart connection. My partner can make ANYTHING sensual - so this is really easy for me, I can literally say anything and include tonation, scents or movement and they are IN. Sexually my partner loves it when I worship their cock. When I talk about the different colours, how hard it is, how big it is. They love it when I get them to stand in certain angles so I can properly see and adore their cock. How do you feel about worshipping your lover's lingam in this way? Is there resistance? Do you feel shy? If so that is ok! Share this with your partner and take things slowly.

Lingam Massage Guide

Lingam Libation

This ritual is something that is so beautiful to share with a lover to honour and respect their masculinity, their body, their heart and their lingam. It can be used to connect deeper to your lover and their lingam. It can be used to help your lover appreciate their lingam in a different way than they normally do. It can be used for healing from abuse, both physical and emotional. It can also be used to support impotence, erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety, as well as all of the distress that this experience can create. For a lingam libation you will need: -1 cup of milk of your choice -One teaspoon of honey -Some rose petals or rose oil -A beautiful chalice to pour the libation from. When creating the libation you may want to enchant/infuse it with the love from your heart for your beloved, and their lingam. Method When applying the libation you can first give your beloved a full boy massage to relax them into their body. Then you can begin to gently stroke your beloveds lingam, gently pouring the libation as you speak words of love and kindness to your beloved and their lingam. To complete the ceremony you can lay on top of your beloved with your genitals touching, with the mixture seeping into both of you. You may also like to lick up the libartion liquid from your lover and kiss them on their mouth so that they can taste the honey, milk and rose on your lips and tongue. This experience can be extremely heart warming and can initiate an emotional release from your beloved or both of you. Be sure to hold space for your lover with their release, as this is a gift for them. They may wish to have some time alone, or for you to stay with them, so check in to see where they are at and what they need.

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